How to Meet Japanese Girls at a Club: The Player’s Guide

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January 14, 2022

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My Memorable Night at Wax

“Hey, come on~ I'll sleep with you tonight if you give it back.” ;) “yeah.. right.” She tries to grab it. Misses. I switch it from hand to hand. She tries again. Misses. She stares at me with a frown. I hide it behind my back. She reaches around. Misses again. She steps back... SLAP! Everyone turns around to see what was happening. Now, she's pissed. I hand her phone back. She snatches it out of my hand and she storms off through the crowded dance floor. Huge smile on my face. I see my bro with his girl watching us. I walk towards him as he laughs at me. “You should have given her phone back. Haha.” You probably know someone who’s been through this before, right? When a guy goes too far while flirting and then BAM! Gets slapped. Yes, this really happened. It was at a night club in Osaka called Wax. You’re probably thinking: “Does he regret doing that?” For that night, yeah I did. I had just arrived in Japan a few weeks before and hadn’t got laid yet. But the real answer is no. Why? Because I still had a f***en amazing night. You always remember the night you get slapped at a Japanese club. Now I know this wouldn't happen to you, but who knows! It might happen. (Trust me, it's a hilarious story to tell your bros afterwards). That's why I'm writing this post for you, so you can have the best nights of your life in Japan! I'll also share some tips to help you meet Japanese girls and what you need to know about the Japanese clubbing culture. 行こうぜ!(Ikouze - Let’s go!) How to Meet Japanese Girls at a Club - Why Different

Meeting Japanese Girls at Clubs and Why it's Different

While the main reasons for going clubbing are the same (getting wasted, dancing, meeting girls, etc.), there are subtle differences that make it new and strange in Japan. Here’s what makes them different:
  • No fighting. Japanese people don’t fight, unless there’s a ring. It’s in their culture to avoid confrontation and keeping the harmony. During my first 2 years, I’d seen a dozen fights (95% of them, the provoker was a foreigner.)
  • Japanese people love to drink. It’s common for salary-men to go out after work every night to have a cold beer; every other night for women.
  • ALL-YOU-CAN-DRINK! Most Japanese people aren’t strong drinkers but they love to drink AND they drink responsibly. Because of this, they can have all-you-can-drink options at bars and certain clubs.
  • Dancing at a club or bar was illegal in Japan until the mid-2000’s. I heard this story from the owner of a popular club in Osaka, where the Osaka police force tried to persecute him because they found some people “dancing”. They weren’t dancing; they were swaying to the music. The suit eventually fell through, and the government lifted the ban. Now Japanese people can dance at a club! YAY!
You’re probably thinking: “This is great and all, but… is it good for meeting girls?” Yes and No.

Why clubs can suck to meet Japanese girls

  • Clubs are loud. Terrible for communication (especially if you don’t speak fluent Japanese).
  • Girls go to clubs in groups.
  • Girls are on-guard because too many guys approach and ooze ‘I am horny’ from their eyes. It’s creepy.
  • If you don't have an outgoing or fun personality, you might have a shit time with meeting girls.

Why clubs are great to meet Japanese girls

  • Girls go to clubs to have fun and meet guys.
  • Girls love to drink and dance.
  • They can have a girl’s night with their girlfriends.
  • Girls get to “doll up” and look pretty (they also do this to attract guys).

How to Meet Japanese Girls at a Club - Not Japanese

Meeting Japanese girls in a Club with Little Japanese Ability

Look, you're going to run into this problem. You can get away with not speaking Japanese, BUT you can’t get away with not being interesting. From my experience, I’ve picked up girls with the Japanese level of a 3-year old toddler. (Maybe even 2-years old). Of course, the better she speaks English, the better your chances are. (Obviously, speaking Japanese at conversational level helps too). But, with language aside, you still have to be interesting. And you already have one of the most interesting things about you…

You’re not Japanese.

Japanese girls want to meet non-Japanese guys. Yes, they want to meet you. But, there is a downside to this... Japanese girls are super self-conscious of speaking English. For them, it's an embarrassing (and sometimes terrifying) experience. The brave girls will attempt, but most won't. So, what can you do? Let me introduce you to... How to Meet Japanese Girls at a Club - Players Guide

The Player’s Guide to Meeting Japanese Girls at a Club

Before going to a club, put some effort into getting prepared. You probably already do this, but I’m surprised by the number of guys who DON’T do this. Japanese girls are looking for a clean, well-groomed guy; so dress to impress. (Look like the best fuckable choice). Alright, here’s a list of things you need to take care of:
  • Brush your teeth.
  • Take a shower.
  • Shave and groom.
  • If you have a beard, that’s cool. Just groom it. Certain Japanese girls love beards.
  • Cut your nose hair (I can’t believe I have to say this, but too many guys ignore this or aren’t even aware of it).
  • Dress neat and clean (doesn't matter what you wear).

What type of Japanese girls you’ll meet at the club

After you have been to these clubs a few times, you’ll notice things about Japanese girls who regularly go to clubs. They are different from your average play-it-safe Japanese girl. Certain clubs will attract certain types of girls.

This is what influences the type of girl you’ll meet:

  • Circle of friends.
  • Taste in music.
  • Her age.
These 3 factors will have a major influence on which type of girl you’ll run into. Just think about your own friends, they are usually around your age and you probably share similar tastes in music. This is important because it'll direct you to which clubs you should go.

So, which is the best club should you go to?

Go to the club with your favourite type of music. Like Hip-hop? Go to a Hip-hop club. Like House music? Go to a House club. But you need to know this, girls who like hip hop are different to girls who likes house music. From my experience, most Japanese girls who are new to the scene will go to a House club. They are similar to your typical stay-at-home Japanese girl. They’re younger and go in groups of 3 or more. They also avoid foreigners because they don’t want to speak English. Hip-hop girls, on the other hand, are more interested in foreigners and speaking English. They are independent and will watch their friends back (against douche-bags). Remember this and it’ll help you decide where to go meet a Japanese girl. [Looking for the Top 5 Clubs in Osaka? Check out this blog post] How to Meet Japanese Girls at a Club - Girl Types

How to Approach Japanese girls in a Club

Let’s keep this simple. There is a right way to approach a girl and a horrible way. Here is how you should not approach a Japanese girl:
  • Offering to buy them a drink from the beginning (they usually take the FREE drink and walk away).
  • Hugging them when you just met them (Big No-no. After you’ve become good friends, it's ok).
  • Forcefully grabbing a girl to dance with you (That’s desperate, dude).
  • Do not get clingy - it's a turn-off and you’ll get rejected.
  • Heavy grinding (unless she is ready to sleep with you).
  • Stare at them like a horny pervert (be cool, bro).
  • Don't approach a group of girls who are in a deep conversation.
  • If there are 2 girls, you need another bro. Girls will feel sorry for the third wheel and leave you.
And here’s a bonus one for you: “Don’t spit on me” -- Don’t spit when you talk. My Japanese girlfriend actually said this. (LOL) She says this is common with English speakers and it’s disgusting. Here are some better ways to approach a Japanese girl:
  • Enjoy yourself (this is a social indicator of a non-clingy person).
  • Don’t go to “pick up”, go to have a good time.
  • Dance with the girl, not on the girl.
  • Invite a girl to dance, if she’s off in the corner.
  • Hold out your drink and “Kanbai! (Cheers!)” with them.
  • If you go with another bro, who is fun to be around, you can take on girl groups (but if you have too many bros in your group, you're less likely to pick up).
How to Meet Japanese Girls at a Club - Impress

How to Impress a Japanese girl

If you've been in the game for a while, you’ll know what I mean when I say, I'm inner-game focused. I focus on improving my behaviours to help pick up women rather than pick-up lines and “negging” (defense-dropping comments, disguised as compliments). You're probably thinking: “Why focus on the inner-game? I just want the techniques and pick-up lines.” Here's why... it's not sustainable in the long term. If you try to fake it with a girl, eventually you'll break and show your true character. She will feel betrayed because you had to fake your personality when you're with her. After the approach, this is where you let your character shine. You can fake it or you can be real. Girls know the difference. They experience it every day. They have 6th sense for that shit.

Here are some tips on getting her to stay close and stick around:

  • “Lead her by the hand” -- when you walk, you should be the one leading.
  • Dance with her, not on her (Yes, I'm repeating this).
  • Don't follow a girl to the bathroom (My gf told me this. She says it’s creepy).
  • Make her laugh (laugh her right into bed).
  • Make sure your wing-man is covering her friend (Girls don’t want to leave their friends just to hang out with a stranger).
  • Be playful and silly, but be careful. (This one can work like a charm).
How to Meet Japanese Girls at a Club - End Game

End-game: Taking her Home and Scoring

Imagine you've been dancing with this cute Japanese girl. Sharing shots, dancing with each other, sharing a quick kiss. Her friend is with your wing man and they are getting hot and heavy on the dance floor. It's near the end of the night and you don't want it to end. The last thing you want to hear is the DJ say: “We’re wrapping it up for the night. Here are the last two songs!” [Obviously in Japanese] “Fuck!” You scream in your head. You start panicking: “What do I do now? How do I get her to come back with me?” Alright, let's stop everything for a second. I'm gonna be your Wing Genie and give you some mind-reading powers.

This what your girl is thinking...

She has one of the following 3 thoughts running through her mind:
  1. “I want to leave. I don't want to go home with this guy.”
  2. “This guy is cute. He's so funny. I want to be around him more. But if I go home with him, he's probably going to think I'm a slut”
  3. “This guy is cute and fun. I wonder if he’s going to take me somewhere private.
You probably know this already, but in case you didn't know: girls go with their “feelings” and they use it to figure out if you're a decent guy to go home with.

You have 3 choices at this point:

  1. Take her home or to a love hotel.
  2. Go to another club or bar.
  3. Exchange numbers or LINE (popular Japanese messaging app. Download it).

How do you know which one to use?

It depends on the signs she's giving you.
  • Is she sticking by your side?
  • Is she holding your hand?
  • Have you kissed?
  • Did she go to the bathroom, told you to wait there and then come back? (This happened to me a number of times. And yes, we got lucky).
  • Is she suggesting to go somewhere else?
  • Is she suggesting to go to a bar?
  • Why else would she be with you if she didn't like you?
If you answer yes to most of the questions above, she’s interested. How to Meet Japanese Girls at a Club - 3 Steps

Now Here is Your Foolproof 3-Step Plan

First Step: Convince her to go to a love hotel. Second Step: If she’s not down, be cool and suggest another club or chilling somewhere. Third Step: If all else fails, exchange numbers or LINE. Maybe you’ll see her next week. If she doesn't give you her number, it means she wasn't interested in you from the beginning (I know... it sucks). There's not much you can do about it if she wasn't interested in you from the start. It's a learning experience and you only get better with practice and time. It happens to every bro I know in Japan. My mate even wrote a post about it: 5 Things Japnese Girls Do that Will Give You Blue Balls. Alright, that’s all I have to share. If you read this far, you're a fucking legend, bro. You'll get the girl. I hope you enjoyed this and found it helpful. Let me know in the comments below what you liked most about the article and what you plan to do.

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